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120 changes in 2018: June – results


This is what the plan was. And this is what happened.


Learn about NLP

I was disappointed. When I bought three books about NLP, I hoped to get some practical tips on how to influence my mind and other people to get what I want. But all of them preached the same old American dream – believe you can and imagine you do and all will happen somehow. Been there done that.

The most disappointing book was by none other than one of NLP movement co-creators, Richard Bandler, called “How to take charge of your life: the user’s guide to NLP”. It’s a fiction, where some loser attends 3-day training by the extraordinary Richard Bandler, learns a few mind tricks and leads a very different, happy and fulfilling life 3 months later. Oh, and he meets an amazing girlfriend too. By the end of the book, I learnt more about the awesomeness of Dr Bandler and the life struggles of loser Joe than I did about NLP.

But Amazon must have felt my disappointment and suggested another book for free. Unexpectedly, “How to be f*cking awesome” by Dan Meredith was a good read. In fact, it was very different from NLP and said that one has to work their arse off to advance in life and offered some thought-provoking advice.

Verdict: not for me.


Try Skillshare

I’m undecided about it. I tried some business and photography courses there, and none were life-changing. But perhaps I should try something very out of my comfort zone like calligraphy or coding to make up my mind. I’ll give it another month.

Verdict: continue for another month.


Eat less gluten

Not sure how I did here, especially having discovered the joys of baking my own croissants on weekend mornings (frozen croissants from Waitrose are the best!). I have a feeling that I did eat less gluten on the whole, but did I eat so less of it to notice a difference in how I look or how I feel? No. is it a reason to go back to my old ways of overindulging on pasta? No, too. When it comes to eating, I’ve realised in the last few months, less is more – eating less of bad stuff but allowing some treats anyway is the way.

Verdict: continue.


5 vegan days

Kind of fail but not precisely. The idea was to have 5 vegan days in June, not necessarily in a row, and I just couldn’t do it. But I certainly ate a lot more vegan dishes throughout the month than I ever did before, and I enjoyed being conscious about my food. I’m still not ready to go vegan or even vegetarian or pescatarian (I probably never will be, if I am honest), but because it’s 2018 and there are categories for everything and everyone, I can call myself a reducetarian – I reduce the amount of animal-based foods in my diet.

Apparently, if more people did the same, it’d make a massive positive impact on the planet.

Verdict: continue.


Fuckup night

Loved it. The ticket cost £5, which is a total bargain to spend an hour listening to 4 quite successful people talk about their fuck-ups and what they learnt from them. The biggest lesson I’ve personally learnt that night? Own your fuck-ups. They happen to everyone, and the most adult thing one can do is raise a hand, admit they fucked up and move on.

Next event in London is on 4th September if anyone is interested.

Verdict: done.


Whiten teeth

Totally forgot about it. Oops.

Verdict: try next month.


Run 5k km

Done! I didn’t enjoy a single second of it but oh the sense of achievement!

June was a weird month when I felt like a loser on many days. Everyone around me seems to have something happening in their lives: someone got a dog, someone is planning a house renovation, someone is changing a job, someone had a baby, someone got a promotion. Me? Nothing. At times, it felt like only winning an Oscar would make me believe that I am still able to achieve something.

And this is where setting ambitious goals like running 5k saved my sanity: as hard as it seemed, I could do it. So most probably I could do other impossible things too. Like running 5k again. Or getting that job. Or buying a house one day.

Verdict: continue.


Book a holiday

Fail. Alas, I still need to wait until I have clarity about other life plans before I can plan a getaway to somewhere. But not all is bad: I am in Spain for work in mid-July, and I will be going to Barcelona for a couple of days to spend some time on the beach and in tapas bars. Not quite a proper holiday, but better than a poke in the eye.

Verdict: one day.


Not respond when angry

I had a couple of cases in June when some emails made my blood boil. But I stayed cool, closed them and left them unanswered for a few a hours. Unsurprisingly, my replies were much more professional.

Verdict: continue.


Note good things about bad people

Yes, please! This simple mind trick worked miracles every time I wanted to kill someone slowly and painfully to teach them a lesson. Incredible how thoughts as simple as “she likes cats” can save lives.

Verdict: continue.


Final thought of the month:

Push yourself to achieve, especially when you feel like an underachiever. Do something you find difficult and enjoy the feeling.

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Hello! Whatever brought you to my blog, I hope you found something interesting to read. Writing to me is more than just sharing my throughts with the world, it's my way to make sense of my own thoughts in the first place. There's something about putting my mind to words that make things simpler and easier, and I think it shows in my posts. Occasionally, I write about lifestyle things, but more often I 'think out loud'. A little bit about me: I usually describe myself as 'a Russian, living in London with a British husband and working on Spanish brands in a French company'. It's as fascinating as it gets because I'm just your normal 30-something young woman trying to enjoy life as much as possible. Happy reading, Elena H Jones

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