All posts filed under: 120 changes

120 changes in 2018: May

Become a British national I am cheating here because my application for British citizenship is done and the decision is out of my hands so I’m not really pushing any changes on myself. But it would be nice if the UK’s Home Office sent me an approval letter in May so that I could celebrate my birthday as a dual national. Be less angry about certain people There is one person in my life that I dislike.  Occasionally with passion. Sometimes I catch myself thinking that I properly hate them. Unfortunately, I’m stuck with that person for some foreseeable future and that future sort of depends on them so I need to find ways of letting go of my feelings towards them. After all, my anger is my own problem and it’s up to me to deal with it for my own sake.  Meditate longer I was away on a business trip last week and met a girl who talked about her meditating experience, how she mediates for 30-40 minutes and it helps her sort out …

120 changes in 2018: April – results

The end of April can only mean one thing: checking where I’ve ended up with the 10 changes in April. Let’s go. Switch-off weekend Yes, please! Here you can read what I’ve learnt from my offline weekend. Long story short, it was so good that I will repeat it this coming weekend and will continue to do it on a regular basis. Nothing has ever cleared my mind as well as avoiding mental digital pollution for 24 hours. Verdict: continue. Pay off all debt Done! And OMG it feels good. I used my savings to pay off the remaining debt, which goes against the general advice that you should save 3-6 salaries before rolling up your sleeves to tackle your debts. I disagree. Interest rates on savings are so rubbish that it makes sense to pay off debts as soon as you can to save money from not having to pay outrageous interest fees on debts. If that sounded complicated, here’s a simpler version: not saving can save. Do save what you can but do …

120 changes in 2018: April

Switch-off weekend When this post goes up, I am staying away from my phone, tablet and laptop as much as I can and I am immersing myself in non-digital activities – readings books and magazines, having a walk around my city, watching passers-by, taking notes on paper, cooking, talking to my friends and to my husband, watching films – you know, all those old-fashioned things that people used to enjoy before we became slaves to devices. I know I won’t be able to fully get away from all technology – I rely on my phone for maps, information, music and sometimes camera – but I am giving up on social media, news, e-shopping and just brainless browsing for a couple of days. Pay off all debt I got a grip on my finances and spending habits last year, and my savings are comfortably above my remaining debt. The latter sits on a 0% ARP card, and I slowly pay it off, but I just want to get rid of it so that I can focus solely …

120 changes in 2018: March – results

About twice a year and without any warning, I get moody and unhappy for no apparent reason: there are no big or negatives changes in my life, and yet many things just feel wrong. I was 16 when I first noticed these moods; I was going home from school and realised that I’d been in this dark state of mind for a couple of weeks. It wasn’t destructive – I was still nice to people and I didn’t have any bad thoughts, and back then I said to myself to just wait for it to pass. And it did – back then and then many times later when these mood swings happened again and again. They never last for more than 3 weeks, and they happened this March. I am beginning to feel my usual self again, but throughout the month I didn’t have any will to push myself to stick to my 10 changes so I guess I have failed many of them. But let’s see. Exercise at home I was alright at this, actually. …

120 changes in 2018: March

Happy spring to those who didn’t wake up to scenes like this in London today: So let’s ignore the fact that it’s the 1st of March out there and think about something pleasant, like 10 new changes for the new month. Exercise at home I like exercising but I don’t like gyms. Even though mine is a 3-minute walk away from home, the mere thought that I need 10 minutes to get ready, then spend 30 minutes listening to the awful gym music and pretending not to notice other people around me is enough to demotivate me. So I cancelled my membership. I have enough willpower to exercise at home and I don’t need a treadmill to run when I have a lovely park nearby. The idea is to have 3 or 4 15-/20-minute sessions a week with occasional runs when the weather is decent. Signature cocktail I’m good friends with my neighbours next door, and when I go to their place for drinks and dinner, they always make “Dark and stormy” cocktails. Me? Well, I …

120 changes in 2018: February – results

Since February is the shortest month of the year, this month’s 10 challenges should have been easy. They have been not. Without further due, here is where I ended with them. Write down one gratitude per day. I didn’t do it every day. Sometimes I had to think back on the past 3-4 days, but overall this exercise has made me a lot more aware of the good things around me. I didn’t push myself to re-read the previous gratitudes to not repeat myself, and this made looking at the list even more interesting because turns out I was regularly grateful for: having a loving and beloved awesome husband and a great family; having opportunities in life and being financially stable; being healthy; being myself with all my strengths and occasional weaknesses; generally loving my job; not being an arsehole; not having arseholes in my life. On some days, my list tells me, I was grateful for tulips being in season and….cats on Instagram. But in all seriousness, this was such a good idea. My …

120 changes in 2018 – February

They say Blue Monday in January is the most miserable day. I disagree. For me personally, every day in February is the most miserable, when spring feels so close, but it’s still cold; when the usual workload catches up with you, and you can’t slack saying you’re still getting up to speed after Christmas break; when the drive to self-improve fades away and pushing yourself to stay on track is more difficult than ever. Thinking up 10 changes in January was easy. Doing the same for February has been another story, but here you go. Below are the 10 more changes to make myself a better person this year. Write down one gratitude per day. When I meditate, I always start by saying thank you for all the good in my life. But because I don’t meditate daily and because I will have many reasons to moan in February, I want to make it habit to find something to be grateful for every day. Eat fruits instead of deserts. I don’t really have a sweet …