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120 changes in 2018: July

Wear less makeup. My makeup routine is quite simple: light foundation, eyebrow pencil, lash primer (on some days), mascara, eyeliner, eyeshadows, blush and lipgloss. On average, it takes me about 15 minutes. I’ve long stopped to use makeup to paint a face, so I use to enhance my features. But even though I wear as little makeup as possible, I can wear even less – especially with summer out there and my freckles being my best makeup. Use castor oil on eyelashes. Because it is said to make your eyelashes longer and fuller with regular use. Let’s check. Read 1 book per week. Because smart is the new sexy. Think up 5 realistic side jobs. In the last few weeks, I’ve heard too many stories of people being let go from decent positions after 15+ years in the same company. They all went with comfortable redundancy packages, but it made me realise that no one is ever safe, and I can’t trust my corporate job to support me until retirement safely. I must have some …

120 changes in 2018: June – results

This is what the plan was. And this is what happened.   Learn about NLP I was disappointed. When I bought three books about NLP, I hoped to get some practical tips on how to influence my mind and other people to get what I want. But all of them preached the same old American dream – believe you can and imagine you do and all will happen somehow. Been there done that. The most disappointing book was by none other than one of NLP movement co-creators, Richard Bandler, called “How to take charge of your life: the user’s guide to NLP”. It’s a fiction, where some loser attends 3-day training by the extraordinary Richard Bandler, learns a few mind tricks and leads a very different, happy and fulfilling life 3 months later. Oh, and he meets an amazing girlfriend too. By the end of the book, I learnt more about the awesomeness of Dr Bandler and the life struggles of loser Joe than I did about NLP. But Amazon must have felt my disappointment …

Yes but

Yes but. The two simple words that complicate the easiest of beginnings. Should I start eating healthier? Yes but that pizza is so good. How about I ask for a promotion? Yes but my boss is a prick so he’ll do nothing. I don’t need shopping therapy when life sucks, do I? Yes but there’s a sale on. Change a job, sounds great, doesn’t it? Yes but what if the next place is just as bad? Or shall I get a cat because I love cats? Yes but it’s so much responsibility and there’ll be fur everywhere. I know I should start saving money for the future. Yes but who knows what happens then so I’ll splurge today. Why don’t I wake up at sunrise to go swim in the Norwegian fjords because when else will I be able to do it? Yes but I’m so tired from yesterday. I should stop snacking on chocolate. Yes but this is the last one. Like, really last one. You get the idea. Every “yes but” is a …

120 changes in 2018: June

Learn about NLP Wikipedia says: Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in California, United States in the 1970s. NLP’s creators claim there is a connection between neurological processes (neuro-), language (linguistic) and behavioral patterns learned through experience (programming), and that these can be changed to achieve specific goals in life. Seeing as I want to achieve some specific goals in my career, I thought I’d give it a try. Try Skillshare This online learning platform has had a massive ad campaign recently, and I am giving up on trying to ignore it. They promise a couple of months either free or for a very small fee, so I’ll have a try to see if it’s anything useful to improve some of my skills like photography or communication or writing. Eat less gluten No, I’m not falling for the fad but I have read recently that having skin rush can be a sign of gluten intolerance, and that is something I’ve noticed on my upper arms (#tmi, sorry!). I blame over-indulgence …

120 changes in 2018: May – results

Here is what the May plans were, and here is what happened to them: Become a British national Nearly there! I got a letter from the UK Home Office inviting me to a citizenship ceremony where I will officially become a British national. The ceremony is on the 13th June, but it’s a formality. Happy days. Verdict: done. Be less angry about certain people See a post about it here. I can’t say that my feelings have all gone but the people in question can no longer easily get under my skin. They can try but must try much harder to succeed. In an ideal world, I’d love to part ways completely to really move on but I’m still working on it. Verdict: continue. Meditate longer Fail. So the idea was to try and meditate for 30 or more minutes because it would help me relax in the first 10 minutes and my mind will open to the depths of meditation. I tried 5 times, and every single time my mind was asking “how long …

Today is the day

Liverpool FC manager Jurgen Klopp is a really nice bloke. I’m not much into football, but I like seeing his interviews in the sports news – he is level-headed, reasonable and intelligent and he often speaks about complex matters with wonderful simplicity. Before yesterday’s UEFA Champions League final, he said something that stuck with me. It’s not a 100% quote but it went along the lines of- It doesn’t matter how great you were in the past. It doesn’t even matter how great you can be in the future. The only thing that matters is how great you are today because that’s how you win. Liverpool didn’t win yesterday but let’s no go there. Instead, let’s remember that neither our past successes nor our future potential is more important than what we do to be our best selves today.

Less hate, more peace

So you have someone in your life you dislike. With passion. Ok, it’s more than dislike. You hate them. And even though it gives you a feeling of righteousness because that person must be a jerk to be hated, it sucks the joy out of you. Hate is not a nice feeling. Even when you have every reason to hate someone, ultimately you’re the one suffering. Ask yourself: if you were that jerk, how much would you care about being hated? Probably not that much. And that must make you hate that arsehole even more. Alas, hate is the problem of the haters. So if you’re fed up hating someone, you can stop and move on and find some peace of mind at last. I’ve been trying to do this for months now, and I’m finally at a point where I can look at the source of my hate and think to myself – you know what, I don’t hate you anymore. And that’s when I feel like I’m back in control over my life, …